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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2018 20:39:58 GMT -5
Just an interesting thread idea I had.
Personally I'm somebody who really wants to be social but fails no matter what they do IRL. I'm absolutely horrible at making friends with people and it only ever happens when I'm approached, not when I approach. I guess that's another whole issue, social anxiety. Because I have Autism I have incredibly bad social axiety and have panic attacks with every single thing. I always want to do things but never end up doing them. I also feel bad about literally every mistake I ever make. Currently I have 1 friend and hopefully I can keep that friend.
This is pretty different to online however. Online I'm pretty opposite, while I still do have a lot of social anxiety I'm very good at making friends and I find it quite easy to do. I'm much more talkative online and interact better as well. I have tons of friends online right now and I'm generally a pretty popular person in the communities I'm active in. I still feel pretty bad about every single mistake I make though lol
What about you?
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Post by therealpigchefer on Jul 23, 2018 20:54:31 GMT -5
Before I was too afraid to talk to anyone and only talked when necessary. I made my name known by grades and nothing else. Pretty lame I must say although people were supposedly fine with it, but when I reached high school I started being more open towards others. I developed a very expressive, I-say-anything person. It kinda helped with some people and made me a negative talking point for other people, because they didn't like me being expressive for some reason. People called me rude for no reason but I did strengthen ties with my classmates. Now I guess I'm the same as before, except since I'm a teacher of elementary school children, I'm quite more fun and for me it's very vital to think about others, to keep my students not saying anything rude behind my back and to keep the enthusiasm. Obviously I didn't have Internet before, so here is pretty much the same with how social I am irl. However, I have more time to think about what I say, so I can't worry about messing up and ruining my reputation  |
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Post by Dragon on Jul 23, 2018 20:55:19 GMT -5
Online I can be pretty outgoing and friendly but IRL I tend to be kinda weird and awkward. I usually end up in conversational lulls which bothers me a bit.
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Post by Cyclo on Jul 23, 2018 20:57:28 GMT -5
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Post by Subzero on Jul 23, 2018 21:25:24 GMT -5
Pretty social, but only around certain people. I'm only gregarious towards people I'd like to get to know better, otherwise I'd lose interest and not bother talking with them.
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Post by Pinkie Pie on Jul 23, 2018 22:03:45 GMT -5
idk about other people but being sick for weeks on end is NOT good for your social skills or anything social
predictably, im not good with anything social. being sick for a long time did not do well for my social skills, and when i got back to school i felt distant and awkward even with my friends. i still havent recovered.
even then i still have a FUCKING hard time making friends. most of my irl friends are a year behind me, and when i got to year 7 (middle/intermediate school) i had to leave them behind for a year. so uhh yeah you can imagine how that went. same went for when i got to high school (but luckily someone came up to me on the second week of school). social anxiety is also a huge problem, as i always worry and have panic attacks over the most mundane of social interactions (such as asking an employee at a supermarket for where something is and stuff).
also yknow i play geometry dash, and you know how it goes lol
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Post by WillFlame on Jul 23, 2018 22:08:46 GMT -5
In real life I'm completely fine talking with people I'm familiar with (i.e. classmates, relatives) even if I may not consider them as "friends" yet. I actually have a lot to talk about and tend to inject a lot of tone and enunciation into my words. However, in situations where everyone is a complete stranger I become much more passive and wait for others to approach me, after which I'll probably open up.
Although, I am the kind of person who will raise their hand in class to answer a question if no one else does, or volunteer to start an activity if others are feeling even more nervous.
However, in online situations I feel way more comfortable talking to people and dealing with difficult circumstances. I guess it's because I can kind of detach myself from my online persona, so I don't necessarily feel all the emotional stress that's usually associated with situations like that.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2018 22:49:49 GMT -5
Not medically confirmed, but I think being unable to breath/talk straight half the time in any social interaction qualifies as having social anxiety.
And it's not really because I'm afraid, it's just an involuntary thing that happens a lot of the time. It's kinda annoying.
I only really talked when required to all my life as well. But that habit is starting to break, and will probably change in college where everyone will be always overenthusiastic about everything.
That's kinda the thing I like about growing up. The older I get, the less fucks I give xd.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2018 23:19:55 GMT -5
irl i usually only talk to people who i sit next to in class or try and get me to talk to them, and id only really consider myself friends with a couple people
i used to be really social online on the discord servers i was on, but i havent been on one in a while and im too anxious to so im not really that social online either i guess. at least i still go on forums and talk to a couple people on discord but really im not that social anywhere
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Post by Luxi on Jul 24, 2018 0:24:27 GMT -5
Most of my new friends over the past year and a half are people I met on my IRL Discord community and then in person at a later time, so that's not too great. I'm not as social as I'd like to be but I'm definitely better at talking to strangers than I was a year ago.
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Post by horizon on Jul 24, 2018 0:51:15 GMT -5
I'm a social butterfly, there's few people who don't get along with me (to my knowledge). I'm pretty comfortable talking to just about anyone as long as they're civil.
Also, don't worry about making a lot of friends, because by the end of high school, you will end up with just a handful. In fact, you won't even see most of the people you graduated with past high school.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2018 0:56:36 GMT -5
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Post by incompl on Jul 24, 2018 0:59:52 GMT -5
Depends on the context. If I’m at football practice or a party getting absolutely wasted then I’m as social as anyone else. If I’m stuck at work with a select few coworkers then no, I’d rather do my work in (more or less) complete silence for the next 8 hours thank you very much. I used to be fairly socially awkward and whatnot but frankly I’d attribute that mostly to low self esteem than anxiety or anything like that. Feeling like shit about yourself constantly is enough to seriously hamper any sort of social interaction. Can’t say self esteem is a huge issue for me anymore though. Just kept lifting weights and shedding fat until I started to become happy with the way that I look. Would highly recommend to anyone who was in a similar situation to me. Works wonders, believe me. Obviously I’m still not done. Another 10lbs or so and my current cut will hopefully be over so that I can start bulking again. Repeat ad nauseam.
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Post by headhonchkrow on Jul 24, 2018 1:14:49 GMT -5
I'm very good at saying really awkward things and mumbling like an idiot but I still like talking with people |
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Post by Gingie on Jul 24, 2018 1:34:25 GMT -5
Not very social at all, I just get adopted by more and more people, somehow.
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